10 Ways To Unclutter Your Mind

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Have you ever noticed how so many of us dream of being on an island? This image we have is just a state-of-being. It’s a symbol that represents how we want to feel.

It seems as we get older life gets faster and things are moving at a pace that can feel a bit overwhelming. With the holidays here this can feel even more so.

Here are 10 ways to unclutter your mind:


1. Anytime you feel overwhelmed, just stop and take 5 breaths. Close your eyes, and when you open them pretend you are hitting the restart button.

2. Accept what is happening in the moment and go with the flow instead of fighting it

3. Be kind to yourself and never judge the situation.

4. Release your fear and trust that no matter what you will be okay.

5. Let go of trying to control the situation. This can just make things worse.

6. Ask yourself what is most important right now. Then visualize this.

7. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. None of us are perfect.

8. Look for what is not working for you and then let it go.

9. Smile and think of something that makes you happy.

10. Remember your inner child when everything was about “playing” and come from this state of being/mind.

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How To Make Rosemary & Lavender Calming Spray

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No matter what we do in our lives, you can’t run from stress. Whether at work, driving in the car, or especially with family!

With the holidays upon us, we are going to need something to help us ease our pain and drugs is not the answer. Of course, the best way to ward off stress is to breathe deep.

Any time you are feeling stress, just take a moment to stop and check in with your breath. Stress comes when we either stop breathing regularly or from “short breathing”.

Short breathing is when you do not take breath all the way into your diaphragm and it only reaches your chest area. So make sure you check in with yourself every so often and see if you are breathing deep and also exhaling all of your oxygen.

Now, one great way of helping you to relieve stress is with aromatherapy and essential oils:

Rosemary Oil helps aide the liver and skin and can be very calming on the nerves.

Lavender Essential Oil has a calming scent which makes it an excellent tonic for the nerves. Therefore, it helps in treating migraines, headaches, anxiety, depression, nervous tension and emotional stress. The refreshing aroma removes nervous exhaustion and restlessness and increases mental activity.


  • Take 2 ounces of distilled or purified water (not tap water) and add 20 drops of lavender oil and 20 drops of rosemary oil into an essential oil spray bottle.
  • Shake well
  • You now have your own calming spray and can have it ready when the family is over for the holidays and they are driving you nuts!
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Get More Done Without Stressing Out!


Stress is the # killer in America. It lowers our immune system and wreaks havoc on our well-being. When our body and mind are stressed, then our adrenal glands are working overtime pumping adrenaline into our system.

Stress has gotten a bad name mainly because we do not know how to use it correctly. Truth be told, we need stress because it is part of our survival mechanism. Meaning, if something serious is happening, stress is what helps us keep us alive.

The challenge is that most of us are living in a way where the “stress button” is always on, especially when we are working.

In this great talk from David Allen, he offers some insight and suggestions on how we can be productive without activating our stress mechanism allowing us to get what we need done without all the health implications.

How You Respond To Situations Can Cause Stress

Stress is like sex. People talk about it all the time. Most think they’re pretty good at handling it. Few people really take the time to understand or master it well.

Life is basically one challenge after another. In other words, a life without trials and hardships is no life at all. Accepting this truth will provide the springboard from which you can soar to higher heights and deeper depths of meaning and happiness. Great leaders will tell you that they actually delight in hardships because challenge presents the opportunity for building internal fortitude, which is the secret of a great life.



But while hardships, disappointments, insults and troubles are inevitable, the good news is that stress is not. You are not stressed because things are tough. Stress is not the difficulties that you are facing with divorce proceedings or the disrespectful way your boss yells at you. Nor is stress the constant interruptions in your day, or having more work than you can handle. It’s not even a shortage of money, being criticized by your spouse or having your pet die.

Stress is not the event! Stress is your chosen response to an event you perceive as particularly difficult to deal with. The event is not stress; it is only the activator or the stressor. You decide whether that stressor will turn into stress. Stressors are inevitable—but stress is not.

Three Avenues Of Escape

If you are faced with a terrible stressor right now, remember that you have several windows of opportunity to prevent that stressor from stressing you out.

Your first opportunity lies with the stressful agent itself. Learn to arrest the stressor as soon as it approaches and deal with it immediately. In other words, don’t react to the situation —respond to it. Go ahead and acknowledge that yes, you may have missed the deadline, failed the exam or made a fool of yourself at the party, but by all means remember to say, “I can handle it.” These four words close the door to stress.

Instead of reacting emotionally, devote your energy and attention to dealing with the situation. Here are specific techniques to help you do this:

“Wisdom,” says William James, “is the simple art of knowing what to overlook.” When faced with a stressor learn to overlook some mistakes.

Perception—the way you choose to view a challenging situation. Learn to use hardships as cues to develop positive and self-enhancing perception. In the midst of a disaster, keep reminding yourself that you can handle it. Reach deep into your soul and connect to the vast field of unbounded energy that gives you the power to control your responses. Positive perception closes the gate to stress; learn to beef up your perception by becoming mentally in touch. Treat every stressor as a cue to build a refined and integrated body and mind.

Response—what you do about it. When something terrible happens, choose to perceive it in a light that enables rather than paralyzes. Soften the impact of a disaster on your psycho-physiological system by establishing control over your body and mind. At the first sign of difficulty, tense your muscles, take a deep breath, look slightly upwards and smile inwardly (and outwardly if you have the courage). As you breathe out, relax and extend the out-breath. At the same time, adjust your body, let go of tension in your jaw and shoulders and assume a balanced posture.

When troubles and difficulties strike, suspend your natural reaction and deal with the stressor. As Eienstein said, in every hardship there is opportunity. Internalize this and practice these prescriptions, and you will win against stress.

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Research Studies Prove That Meditation Lowers Stress

Meditation sounds like a new age idea. But can medical science prove that it works?

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Everyday ouches—a stubbed toe, a papercut—may cause less distress to your brain if you meditate regularly, according to a new study in the journal NeuroReport.

To test transcendental meditation’s effects on the brain’s response to sudden pain, researchers compared 12 healthy 30-year TM practitioners with 12 others of similar health who had received only an introductory TM lecture.

Upon having their fingers immersed in hot water for 30 seconds, all participants generally reported the same level of discomfort. But brain scans of the long-term meditators showed up to 50 percent less activity in some brain regions in response to the pain.

“Prior research indicates that transcendental meditation creates a more balanced outlook and greater equanimity in reacting to stress,” explains lead study author David Orme-Johnson, PhD. “This study suggests that this is not just attitudinal, but a fundamental change in how the brain functions.”

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Deep Breathing Is Good For Stress & The Lungs

Many people who experience anger and stress are not breathing deep. Because of this, it is also affecting their lungs.


Alleviating anger with a little deep breathing may benefit your lungs in more ways than one, according to new research from the Harvard School of Public Health.

In studying 670 generally healthy older men (average age: 62), researchers found that those who were chronically hostile had poorer lung function.

And at an eight-year follow-up, the study’s grumpsters revealed more aging in their lungs than their cheerier counterparts.

Lead study author Laura Kubzansky, PhD, and her research team report that chronic hostility could weaken immune function and ultimately trigger inflammation in the lungs.

The researchers also suggested that anger-prone people often lack strong social support, which may deny such individuals “the broad array of health outcomes” associated with friendship and other social connections.

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